What is Happiness? - Excerpt from Lucy's Book: Happy. Healthy. Strong.

What is Happiness? - Excerpt from Lucy's Book: Happy. Healthy. Strong.

What is Happiness? - Excerpt from Lucy's Book: Happy. Healthy. Strong.

Below is an excerpt from Be Happy. Be Healthy. Be Strong. by Lucy Locket. Here she describe what happiness means in respect to her mantra.
The idea of happiness to me isn’t about smiling all the time and looking at the world through rose-tinted glasses. It’s not about rainbows, running through sunny meadows or marrying a prince. 
Life, sadly, is not designed by Walt Disney. It’s the stretch of time you’re given to do things in, limited by circumstance or aided by privilege. It’s both gritty and fantastic.

As you enter adulthood, you soon realise that life isn’t easy. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. It’s the hardest thing you will ever do. It’s the longest thing you will ever do. And it’s everything.

It is easy to mistake it as an unending struggle, a series of tasks, like a production line of fires to extinguish.

But… we all know, that isn’t the whole picture.

Life can be joyous and incredible.

Sometimes it can be easy to forget that this joy can eclipse all doubts. Our triumphs can lay waste to our insecurities. Past injustices become background noise in the radiance of pure, unadulterated happiness.

When life is bad, it’s insufferable; when life is great, it is rapturous. And you’re going to experience both, if you’re paying attention. Happiness and unhappiness are mandatory feelings. It’s impossible to have one with the other. There has never been a person who has only felt happiness; we are not Care Bears. But sometimes this is easy to forget.

Happiness is something that should be strived for, but also understood to be transient. People get worried that they aren’t happy, as if it’s possible to exist in a state of constant, unmitigated joy.

Rather than trying to force yourself to be happy, settle for acknowledging that, at times, it’s more than acceptable to feel unhappy.

When I ask friends what they think happiness is, they all say different things. Whether it’s being able to enjoy time with their family, or something as simple as being able to sit down and have a cup of tea after a long day on their feet.

Others have told me that watching their children grow up, as you can imagine, is the happiest time of their lives.

What’s funny about this is that they might also tell you it was the most stressful and hardest time of their life; the happiest but also the most difficult.

Everyone has different experiences and ideas of happiness. And as you age in work, life and commitments, your priorities change and so your definition of happiness will change too. That is important to remember. Happiness will mean different things at different times in your life.

To me, it’s important to appreciate the good times in life when they happen.

Happiness is like hunger. These feelings come and go. But it’s important to recognise them when they are there.

If you look up the definition of the word ”happy”, you find it’s an adjective used to describe a “feeling or showing pleasure or contentment”. The word contentment is important here because I don’t think many people would equate the word with happiness.

Contentment seems more attainable. Aiming towards it becomes more of a box-ticking exercise. A manageable thing to work towards; getting your ducks in a row.

So whenever you read the word “happy” or “happiness” in this book, I also want you to equate that with this easier target.
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